Happy Anti-Valentine's Day, friends! A.F. Stewart is hosting the Bloody Valentine Bloghop today, and I am venturing over to the dark side! This is what A.F. Stewart had to say about it:
On February 14th, I'll be hosting a darkly delightful, blood dripping, Valentine's Day blog hop where it's down with the idea of candy and flowers. For one day writers and bloggers will dispense with the sappy romance, and show you the bad side of love.
We will be celebrating heartbreak, love gone wrong, romantic mayhem and tragedy, hopefully with that little splash of humour and blood. On the Bloody Valentine Blog Hop you will find out what happens when the rose petals die, the candy melts, and lovers are looking for payback.
Bwahahaha!
Okay, all of you who know me will know that this is NOT what I'm all about. I don't really do the dark side, I do fluffy and sweet. But you know what, love is never just about that. Sometimes, it's downright ugly.
On the bad side of romance, there is disappointment, doubt, massive insecurity. There are tears, and nights spent at home with a tub of Ben and Jerry's.
If you've ever felt that level of heartbreak, when something you thought was forever ends, or something you wanted is abruptly snatched away from you, it's actually impossible to describe that level of pain.
Obviously, I do have a story to tell. A story of a guy who broke me, and who - after close to ten years - still wanders in and out of my dreams occasionally. But even after all that time, the story still feels too personal to share with the whole world. My best friends know it, of course. And one day, I am positive there is an epic story inside me that will come out, inspired by all that happened. But not yet.
And I guess that's the truth of the dark side of love. Even after you've moved on, been in other relationships, and you don't even think about it anymore (unless a bloghop asks you to dredge up some memories lol :p ), there are some things that will always leave a mark on you.
Memories do that whether they are good or bad. But I'm glad those marks haves not killed your positivity. Happy Anit-Valentines Day and the regular one too Kyra.
ReplyDelete<3 I HATE that he did that to you.
ReplyDeleteLove always leaves a mark, and one day you figure out what they mean!
ReplyDeleteVery true words. The bit about Ben & Jerry's, as well as things leaving their mark on you.
ReplyDeleteLove can certainly end badly, and there's nothing you can do about the pain other than get through it. That's probably why Ben & Jerry's will never go out of business. They have too many broken hearts to mend!
ReplyDeleteNothing is more poisonous than your own joy being turned against you. Someday you'll mend enough; it may not make anymore sense then than it does now, but at least you have you - and that's what matters! Stay fluffy, it keeps the poison away! (...and too much Ben & Jerry's, if there is such a thing)
ReplyDeleteThis is why boys suck. I'm sorry someone hurt you, but another better one will come along!
ReplyDeleteI like the fluffy side of love too, but you've pointed out the all too true dark side. My high school bestie would always tell me, "A writer must suffer" for our work to have depth. That got me through plenty of heart aches!
ReplyDeleteI've definitely had the Ben & Jerry's nights (plus wine).
ReplyDeleteI try not to add a lot of hype to Valentine's Day. I read a study recently where couples are actually MORE LIKELY to break up on that day.
So I try not to give it attention :D
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I've had those nights too. I've been with my husband for over 15 years now, but I still have those guys who broke my heart wander into my dreams now and then.
ReplyDeleteLove does have a darkside. But then, if it was all bunnies and roses, it wouldn't really have meant much either.
ReplyDeleteI do know how that type of heartbreak can be. Love definitely has a dark side. I broke up with this one person, who even thought I knew it would never really work out, I still loved the person. I haven't dated or anything really since, and it's been nine years since that happened.
ReplyDeleteI'm a light and fluffy gal, too. But we probably all have a dark, sad story lurking in our past. Good for the writing I think. ;)
ReplyDeleteI've been there, too, and what I can say is this: Chocolate definitely helps!
ReplyDeleteYeah, I've had some doozies of relationships or almost-relationships as well. I never thought of writing about them. Maybe it's something to consider in future. :)
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